Why Do You Want to Have a Baby? Understanding the “Why” Behind Parenthood

Taking a Thoughtful Approach to Parenthood

The decision to have a baby is one of the most profound choices a person can make. Yet, many people don’t take the time to ask themselves the most fundamental question: Why do I want to have a baby?

For many, having a child feels like the natural next step—after marriage, a stable job, or external pressure from family and society. But bringing a child into the world is about much more than checking off life milestones. It’s a decision that requires emotional readiness, self-awareness, and a deep understanding of what parenthood truly entails.

At Ready Nest Counseling, we believe that taking the time to explore this question can lead to healthier, more intentional family planning. In a recent video, Emily Pardy, founder of Ready Nest Counseling, shares her own experience and why it’s so important to reflect on your reasons for wanting a child.

Why do you want to have a baby? It’s a question that not enough people ask themselves before starting the journey to parenthood. In this insightful video, Emily Pardy, founder of Ready Nest Counseling, explores the deeper reasons behind wanting to have a child.

A Baby Doesn’t Solve Every Problem

Many people subconsciously believe that having a baby will bring happiness, strengthen a marriage, or create a sense of purpose. While parenting can be deeply fulfilling, it’s important to understand that a baby doesn’t solve underlying emotional or relational struggles.

A child can bring joy, love, and a new chapter in life, but they are not responsible for:

Improving your self-esteem
Strengthening a weak relationship
Filling a personal void
Defining your life’s purpose

Parenthood requires giving without expectation. When a baby is seen as the key to happiness or self-worth, it places an unrealistic burden on both parent and child. Instead, fulfillment should come from within, allowing you to step into parenthood from a place of wholeness, not need.

Exploring Your Own “Why”

If you’re considering having a baby, take a moment to reflect on the following:

Is this decision driven by love and readiness—or external pressure?
What are my expectations of parenthood, and are they realistic?
Am I emotionally and mentally prepared for the challenges ahead?
Do I have a strong, supportive foundation in my relationship (or personal life)?
How can I cultivate fulfillment and purpose in my life outside of parenthood?

These questions aren’t meant to deter you from having a baby but to help you step into parenthood with confidence, clarity, and emotional preparedness.

Creating a Healthy Foundation for Parenthood

At Ready Nest Counseling, we help individuals and couples navigate the emotional complexities of fertility, pregnancy, and postpartum transitions. Whether you’re considering parenthood, struggling with the decision, or looking for guidance on strengthening your relationship before having a child, we’re here to support you.

Are You Ready for Parenthood?

If you’d like to explore your own “why” in a safe and supportive space, we invite you to schedule a session with Ready Nest Counseling.

📞 Contact us today to start your journey toward an intentional and fulfilling parenthood experience.

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Let’s start the conversation. Why do YOU want to have a baby?